Teenage dating guidelines
Teenagers still flirt, date, and fall in love - but with a whole new set of rules.
The world wants to define dating for your teenager.
Don't: Ask your teen's date to lead a one-hour devotion. Don't: Expect your teen to tell you every detail of the relationship. Because of your investment, you get to redefine dating and help your teen replace unsatisfying, casual relationships with godly dating.
Do: Reserve the right to cancel any date if you perceive a threat to your teen's safety.
Boundaries include saying yes and no, just as doors are made to be opened and closed. Sometimes trying to survive activities during the school year turns into . Rather than fighting over schedules to exhaustion, decide beforehand. Until then, let's challenge them to take risks, work hard and dream big.
If you feel like trust was broken, a lock down may be necessary. Each week contestants never know what their challenge would be.
If the door has been wide open, it's okay to shut it, a little, a lot, or completely.
And we can celebrate, knowing our boundaries and commitment played a part in their lifelong dream of independence.
Mom, in her infinite wisdom said, “You are really too young to have a boyfriend.
One day our teens will receive their reward by becoming the responsible adults that God has made them to be.
Knowing this limitation eliminates verbal boxing matches. Unlike the singing talent show, we don't eliminate our sons or daughters. We remember their dreams, cheering their wins and comforting their losses.
As the first date approaches, discuss specific guidelines your family will honor. Do: Establish a general curfew for weekends and school nights. Don't: Insist that every date take place in your living room with you and your spouse. Dating is a completely new phase of life that must be learned. Trust God to protect your child and your influence in her life.
Do: Pray with your teen before the date arrives, if possible. Years of guiding your teen spiritually, emotionally, and relationally will pay off in the dating season.
With separated or divorced parents, know your boundaries and keep them, even when they differ from your ex's. John Townsend wrote in his book, , "Good parenting means letting your teen move away from you spiritually while at the same time keeping her pointed toward a connection with her Heavenly Father." My friend allowed her teen the freedom to volunteer as a cameraman for the church service instead of attending youth group, which he didn't enjoy.